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Continue reading →: Jealousy and other big emotions“So what made you change your mind?” Bruce blurted on a recent evening walk. “Change my mind about what?” I was clueless. Thirty seconds ago we’d been talking about the grocery order. “You know. Desire. The lifestyle. All of it.” “My dad dying. The awful way he died, Which, you…
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Continue reading →: Swingers need to teach the world about consent.I am raising a teenage girl. A damn cute one. One who is starting to venture out into the world without me. So, of course, we have to have lots of difficult conversations. About men, and dating, and how damn scary the world can be when you’re a cute young…
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Continue reading →: When vacay meets real lifeWhen we got back from Mexico, I assumed that what happened there would stay there. So when Mr. Neon himself reached out a month or so ago, I was floored. And a little embarrassed (did he read what I wrote about him? probably not but omfg, what if he did?).…
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Continue reading →: I suck at flirting.I am a romance author. A bona fide, published by a NYC publishing house, romance novelist.* My books are loaded with innuendo and panty-melting sex. Words are my bitch. But when it’s time to put my spectacularly dirty vocabulary to work in real life? That, my friends, is unexpectedly problematic.…
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Continue reading →: Swingers: a model for healthy relationshipsLast weekend, I found myself trying to comfort my mom as she sniffled on the couch. “What’s wrong, Mom?” “You’re just so, so haaappppy!” I blinked. “And that makes you sad?” I mean, I know our family dynamics aren’t always healthy, but… “Yes. No. I’m not sad that you’re happy.…
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Continue reading →: Two truths and a lieIt’s 9 p.m. I’m in my jammies on the couch, fresh from a post-sex shower, when the Kid comes barreling in the front door. “Dad says you’re going to a Halloween party. Is that true?” I blink cluelessly. “Uhhh… what?” “On the way home Dad said you’re going to a…
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Continue reading →: A new kind of house party“Are we really going to do this?” Bruce asks. “Yeah, I think so. I mean, if it sucks, we can just leave, right?” He nods. “Okay, then. I’m already dressed up. Let’s go.” *This* is a house party. A lifestyle house party with a glow/disco theme. So way fewer kegs…
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Continue reading →: Swinging IRL ain’t easyWhen you look at lifestyle websites, one thing becomes apparent pretty quickly. There are lots of under-35 folks, and tons of over 50 couples. But those in between aren’t nearly as prevalent. And I know why. It’s really hard to find time when balancing kids and work and after school…
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Continue reading →: Dating sites are making me shallowDating apps have always been a completely foreign concept to me. I mean, yeah, sure, I’ve always known what they are and how they work, but we got married before the turn of the century (dear god, that makes us sound old). Dating apps weren’t a thing. Apps weren’t a…
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Continue reading →: Diving into the deep endOver the four days we were at Desire, I had the following conversation about a hundred times. “So are you in the lifestyle?” “Not yet. Just dipping our toes in. We’ve talked about it for a long time, but never had the opportunity to explore.” Have you ever been to…
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